Good Wolf vs Bad Wolf

this image was originally made for the popular 10 ways to get revenge post, bad bombchell! but it kinda fits this post :)

hmm so Bad Bombchell vs Good Bombchell, and by bad I don't mean Naughty... I mean just downright bad.

Today while reading Jess's blog  i read the coolest story: It's a popular Native American (Cherokee) story, "Good Wolf vs Bad Wolf."

omg I always considered myself a good person. I remember when I told my friends "I'm a good person, I don't drink & drive!" and they burst out laughing. Really I don't drink and drive, I don't think it's good, so I don't do it. This story made me question myself, and what wolf I am. I'm not saying people who drink & drive do are bad people necessarily because I've let drunk people or worse drive me (aka because i didn't drive lol), but it's reckless. As i see it, I do normal stuff, I'm more nice than I'm mean, I say 75% nice, 25% bitch, not too bad, right? I have my issues, but they can't be that bad because some people have serious issues!!!

Ever heard of that bad wolf, good wolf story? If you haven't, well here you go..

"One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between 2 wolves.

One is Evil. It is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf wins?"

The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed." "

when i first read this I was like, OMG i'm more of a bad wolf, cause the good wolf definitely sounds like a mythical creature in comparison.

let's see how I stand:


Bad Wolf

• anger: check
• envy: not really, kinda sorta, but not really, okay fine I envy some people's blogs! well just 3, see  so... not really, but I get a ping of jealousy when I see a novelist thats under 25 like the "ps: i love you" lady. (however I've never been envious of a photographer, just in awe of the great ones)... ok I'm tired of justifying my envy
• sorrow:greatefully no
• regret: not really
• greed: nope
• arrogance: sure guys I've liked have been slightly arrogant. I might be warped enough to find it slightly sexy. I need help!!! lol
• self-pity: why not
• guilt: I don't know, kinda. isn't that natural, oh well I blame Catholicsm!! catholic guilt & cultural guilt is definitely fun, not! maybe they should add "blame" as a trait of the bad wolf.
• resentment: slightly
• inferiority: nope
• lies: def not, unless maybe you count omission, or being good with words, I call it "HR." *sigh* this makes me sound like I'm lying, but i really truly try to avoid lying, so I hate when people downright ask me a hard question because they know I'll answer truthfully. I'm sure my mum loves this.
• false pride: hmmmm, how do you know it's false?
• superiority: hmmm
• ego: Yup!

Good Wolf

• joy: huh
• peace: a dream
• love: sure
• hope: sure,
• serenity: do people really exist who have this???
• humility: i'll work on it
• kindness: yes! finally something
• benevolence: intention
• empathy: sure
• generosity: I don't know, maybe not enough, yea def not enough
• truth: yup (go back to lies)
• compassion: yea
• faith:: hmmm, slowly but surely

It's definitely time for me to feed my good wolf!! you know what, the first time I read this story I thought most of my attributes were with the bad wolf, and barely any were with the good wolf, but now I see i'm a bit of both.

From reading jess's blog, I realized or it reinforced my forgotten belief that we have a dialectic relationship within ourselves. It's a tug of war, of so many choices, and we are the end result. Watching the Arrangement Bureau on the plane made me remember we all have free will, we just don't choose to exercise it but many of us act as if we have no choices. Sure some choices are less favorable than others, or require more patience, but it's still a choice. And i can say I am who I am today because of the people i've been around; friends, family, professors, school, the things i have chosen to eat, experiences that have occurred, and decisons I have made. (huh?? did someone ask for my major in college?  it was Sociology. did you just say now it all makes sense? lol)

You know what? this wolf isn't too bad :) but I could definitely do better, and so can you. A little at a time, a little a day, and who know we might become that mythical good wolf  or better.

-signed Bombchell Oprah ---- Mark & LaaLaa yall asked her so you better read lol.
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I always joke that admiting you have a problem is the first step, but after admitting it I never do anything about it. I'm lazy (i still haven't decided if I want to do anything about that, I don't think I want to *hides face*), I procrastinate (dear heaven this needs to change, i keep getting into horrible situations), and anger (remember this post).

Well last week I decided to take a step (I know 6 months - years later but it's a step!!!)
I bought a book on anger & procrastination!! * insert bbm happy dance*

step 3 will be to read it

step 4 is to practice what I learn.

lets just enjoy step 2 for now. So.... what wolf are you feeding? and remember from Today you can consciously decide what wolf to food  or how much food to give either.

Bombchell's Last Weekend in Atlanta. (Going Away Dinner @ Divan)

Yay! Made it safe to Lagos today! It was an 11 hour direct flight from Atlanta, GA to Lagos, Nigeria. I left around midnight so I mostly slept, I also watched Adjustment Bureau & Most of Harry Potter Deathly Hallows part 1 (ooh flew Delta).

My brother & Sister will be at work tomorrow so I might be bored out of my mind. I only have 2 luggages as of now, I have about 3 more than I'll need to fly here. Hope i don't run out of clothes. And our inverter needs to be fixed!! ARGH.... ok let me back up, and explain the whole inverter thing.

So in Nigeria, we use NEPA for electricity, kinda like i used GA Power in Atlanta. However NEPA's for the whole country, and doesn't provide constant power aka a lot of times there's no electricity. So when NEPA takes light, most people use generators, it's pretty standard but i think it can expensive with diesel or something... i dunno, but it's expensive to run. So apparently, now people use interverters (I'm not even sure of the spelling), but it charges when there's a big power supply like NEPA, so it canpower up little stuff like fans etc when there's no light (that's my rough knowledge, if i'm wrong someone will correct in the comments).

My point is, tomorrow will NOT be a fun there if i have no light! lol. Anyways back to Friday, 3 days ago :)

here are the pictures from my going away get together

Gorgoeus Buki!! @BukiBaby love this picture, gonna miss watching chick flicks with you! & I love love love your hair cut!

I've known Buki for a long time, almost since I moved to Atlanta, she's friends with Nneka's older sister. We have a bunch of mutual friends & just started getting close, then i decided to "up & leave."

Meron!!! my oldest friend in the states!!

 I met Meron at Oxford of Emory, when i was 16 and we attended college together. Love this chick to pieces. (People sometimes ask me how to meet friends, and in this case we rekindled. We never quarreled we just lost touch, and found ourselves later).

Her hair looks great right?? i'll show you what she did earlier in the day before she came. Sorry luv don't kill me, oh well you can't catch me 'til Dec:

& me & my brown hair!! 

some ladies have asked about my hair. It's extensions, dark brown, I dyed it. Nneka sells hair, but i bought this (Indian hair extensions) from SheizAdiva (my sis & cousins brand). You can email them to order at sheizadiva@hotmail.com because i mixed used and new pieces.

Guess what this is?

It's my clutch!!! big deal cuz I barely carry bags, got it from DSW for under $30

We Went to DIVAN in buckhead, where you can smoke hookah, we're mostly newbies so it was a fun experience.

Divan
3125 Piedmont Road
Atlanta, GA 30305
(404) 467-4297
www.divanatlanta.com
Open Mon-Thu 7pm-12pm; Fri-Sat 7pm-2am; Sun 7pm-11pm

ps: their kinda anal about time so if you make an appointment for a large party, make sure they are there within 20mins. i kinda lied to my friends and told them an earlier time, smh some were still late!! lmao.

It was getting dark so kept doing camera tests for the right light

camera test 2

you must test!!

*TEAR DROPS!!!!!* M & N, what shall we do!!!???? 

My gorgeous cousin Nneka

NK & BUKI!

Cynthia (@therealbuchi) & Nneka (@OnyeGucci) are sisters. Funny thing you don't see Cynthia much on my blog, but if you go back 3 years ago you'll find her in my first posts. :( gonna miss you!!

and just incase someone asks: Nneka is wearing the extensions she sells, and so in Cynthia (she dyed hers)

My cousin Adaora flew in from LA. (total jet setter!!! she was just in Ethiopia & bout to be in London, I need to hide in her suitcase)

Me & Nneka

My dear friend Onuwa. We're like Tom & Jerry it's silly, but we mean well. Really great guy & def glad I'm friends with him. ps: I better see you in 6 weeks

remember i told yall my braces have barely helped!! PS: The refund i told you about came in. amen!!

LMAO!!!!!! I love this picture!!!!!!!

SOSA!!!!!!!!!!! came in from Alabama *sigh*  waaaaaaaaaaay too many memories. At my bachelorette party she'll def have all the stories! Love you girl. Amen for bbm.

MY BUDDY JUSTIN!!!! we've known each other since 04 he says. but we' became friends later. LOVE YOU BABE. def miss you, you better come on SKYPE (>_<) and you really really should visit :) oh yeah ladies he was in my Hot guy Friends list.

to my friends from dinner :( I miss everyone!!! and love yall soooo much!! glad yall came out to dinner, had a lot of fun & better visit soon!!!

to everyone that commented in the last post: Thanks for all the well wishes it really means a lot to me, because i was nervous about the trip. Guess we'll see what Lagos has to offer. Time to meet old friends & make some new ones.


Where's the food porn!! you say!? HERE IT IS :)

Buki's food

Meron's food

Shish Kebab's on right & left

Adaora's food

YUP everyone else got shish kebabs

It felt like i had a birthday party :)

Jet lagged!
bombchell.

I'm Moving out of Atlanta to.... (quick video)

edit: some people have a problem with the music that's normally on the top right of my blog, so I decided to remove it, so people can watch videos easily (& people have always had a love/hate relationship with it lol)

1st video: 2009: live video on my first trip to miami
2nd video: 2010: goofy video about silly moment, i confess I was on the master cleanse and that's why i was in that predicament.

i've been promising to make another video ever since, so I decided, why not make another one? As awkward as videos are I decided to personally answer a question that I've been getting since I've been talking about moving, but have not really said where I'm moving to.

It's a quick video under 5 mins. I just got done with my dinner & I already miss everyone. This video answers where I'm moving to, and the few others I get. Enjoy.

Entering Shopping Rehab (Top 4 Shoes & Some Sales in the city)

So i've been shopping for shoes. Ya'll will be so proud of me. I can't believe i went from the girl with 1 black heeled shoes, to the girl with about 4 different black heeled shoes in one month.

I'm moving so I'm doing about 1 year's worth of shopping, my bank almost cried when I left MAC cosmetics, I spent over $200 there. I've been telling Nelysia & Nneka that I feel so.... sick from all this shopping. Nneka claims the cure will come when i wear all the new clothes, shoes etc.

I think I've bought enough shoes to last me 2-3 years. You don't understand, I've rocked my black Tory Burch flats so.... much that the sole is insanely worn out, I asked about resoling it today (YES i can be that cheap), they said it starts at $80, HECK NO!! i'd rather kill these shoes with 3 more months, and buy em for $195 next year. I'm really glad I'm moving out the country, because after this one month of constant shopping, any more time and i think I will become a shopaholic.  Dear shopaholics i'm even starting to recognize products that look similar, and say stuff like "Omg I saw this shoe at DSW yesterday," or "Michael Kors has a similar product," and even "you can get this same Bakers sandals at Shoeland for $20." Yes i definitely need rehab. So i've declared today My last shopping day. So Nneka please stop welcoming me to the dark side!! I rebuke it.

I've probably bought about 16- 20 shoes in the past month. Here's my top 4 from today & yesterday since i promised Nneka & Lynda. 

Mini Shoe Haul

I call em my Pink Dorothy Shoes (ala wizard of Oz) -- got em yesterday from DSW for under $100. name: Steve Madden

yesterday from DSW. name: Madden Girl about $45

OMG MY FAVE!!!! got em today from Jedal at Phipps Plaza $99 (I secretly don't want to say the price, cause they look more expensive, but i love yall). oh name: Psh

Got these from DSW. SE Boutique by Sam Edelman Group

Randoms to help Shopaholics. *SALES*

- Zara is having a sale starting tomorrow (according to Nneka, and she knows her stuff).

- Jedal is at Phipps plaza, and doing buy 1 get 1 FREE!!!! some shoes are 200-500 but if you look hard you'll see some for $99, and say hi to Yarill / @Toych3st for me. (OMG he is soooo cool, he showed me a picture wearing some badass red & black heeless shoes!!!!!! )

- Karen Millen has some dresses for 70% off.  (down stairs lenox mall) (got a dress for $100, it was $350 before)

GUYS!!! FOR YOU:::
- Express is having a great sale!! MEN: $15 & up shirts
& Ladies they have jeans buy 1 get one 1/2 off, and dresses on sale

- Victoria Secret is having their semi annual sale

- Shoeland (where shoes are from $15 - $35) if you buy 10 ask for a discount (10%), all year.

- Bath & Body Works is having buy 1 get the other 50% off.

- DSW & Nordstrom Rack : Are right by each other and have great deals! (up to size 11 shoes)

as you can tell from this list my credit card is having an eating disorder right now, fat today skinny tomorrow, then fat again, and the cycle continues.


omg i can't wait to watch Bad Teacher with Cameron Diaz!!! ugh I have to start packing, it's sooooo much i don't even know where to start.

A-Z of my horrible experience with Family Orthodontics of Georgia (aka wefixyoursmile.com) / Damon braces

I hate bad customer service, i really detest it. Sadly the horrible rotten apples that work in customer service tarnish the name for most people that work there, and keep the stereotype going. Sometimes I have an experience so bad that I get so angry and i can't believe it's real.

Well this is a shitty experience. and worst $5000 i ever spent, and how i'm fighting to get my refund before i leave the country.

I feel bad because the doctors I've dealt with have been really nice, their assistants were nice, but... the other people have been soo... bad, rude and frustrating that it has made my whole experience a nightmare. Here's the A-Z of my experience. so buyers beware.

A) while looking for braces, I chose Damon Braces solely from internet research, it seemed clear or tiny (which if you have seen my blog pictures know it def isnt clear and it is VERY visible) and it claimed to be faster which hasn't been the case.

from Damon Braces cite (well guess what it's definitely metal below & visible when i smile)

i swear i must be wearing a different brand of braces, cause my metals are def visible as you've seen

B) I picked the Dr that was closest to Buckhead because i hate driving and sometimes get anxious when i drive. My friends and family know i barely go past 10 miles, and hate even being a passenger. I hate driving far.

C)  This organization is called Family Orthodontics about 2.3 miles away.

D)  Though advertised as close by, I was told that the closer location would not be completed for a few months, this ended up being about 6 months later.

So i was stuck at the Roswell location
 E) It looked like a children's dentistry place, with gorgeous murals, and cartoons playing on TV screens, video games everywhere, it's definitely better than a chuck e cheese. But I was assured that they treated adults (its both children's dentistry and a some orthodontics).

F) I was shown damon braces, and had also seen the videos on their site. During my consultation the braces seemed clear. The Reality: after i paid the middle top 8 are clear and the bottom, and top sides are metal. and i had seen a strictly demonstrationional model or whatever they call it.

yup! that's what I got :)

G) ACTUALLY on day 1, even though i paid $500 extra for clear brackets they made a mistake and gave me all metal brackets because the lady forgot to write it in the chart. I then had to sit down  and wait for them to take it out, and put the right ones in, torture.

h) I left confused about the metal brackets on my bottom jaw, because i was shown a clear model on both top and bottom jaw. but it was too late to go anywhere i had paid in full.

I) Knowing that I would be might be moving out of the country in a year i asked about the refund before I got my braces and was told i would be refunded for services that weren't done.

J) One appointment i went there, and the power was out, I'm not sure why, so I was taken by the window and the assistant didn't put my wires in correctly which i realized after i had left.

k) Since they have 3 orthodontics and so many locations, certain dr's are assigned to certain locations, which they operate from only once a week.

l) I week i was schedules for an appointment i tried to change the date to no avail because i had a huge exam. Guess what  the morning of my appointment, due to the weather they didn't show up, nor did they have the courtesy to call me and cancel. t

j) Customer service sent me a target gift card (of about $25 or 40) to apologize for the various inconveniences i had dealt with.

k) a dentist told me i had a lot of cavaties and an orthodotist should have never put braces on me without checking, my dr. looked and said i was fine, and made the dentist seem like a quack. life went on

l) last year I asked for a tally of my possible refund to me emailed, and no one ever gave it to me.

At the new closer location
m) This year when the location close to me finally opened i switched to that location, and didn't miss the far drive

n) This year I went to the dentist  again and he told me i had cavities. I told my new orthodontist who informed me that normal procedure they made sure you get checked out before you can wear braces, and he called the lady who works in children's dentistry to check on me, and guess what she said my teeth are in really bad shape, and i definitely need to have get it taken care of, and the braces would make it worse.

o) well it's been almost a year since Ive had braces, and my new orthodontist informed me that my teeth are moving so slowly that braces might not work for me.


p) moving forward, I'll be leaving the country soon, can I please have my refund. sure no problem, you can pick it up on your last appointment right before you have to leave the country.

q) for 2 months I've been asking the company Damon braces to give me a list of their international dr which was listed last year when i decided to get Damon braces, but thanks to a website redesign international dr's are no longer listed.

r) on appointment day, can i please get my check? oh wow they have no idea what I'm talking about and haven't tallied my check!!!! This is a month later!!! and no check!!! So they tally it up, it's supposedly only about $1000 left. fine give me my check. no they'll mail it to me. problem it might not get here soon enough.

s) A week later, I call, what's going on with my check. I'm transferred to Traci who tells me she has heard about my nasty attitude and she has heard the story about me leaving the country but i have only 2 choices. to drive all the way to Woodstock, (41minutes!!!) to get my check, or she can mail it to me. Great it's been a week and this bitch hasn't mailed it. So I ask if she can expedite it or when the check will get here and she informs me that she is not the mailman.

t) Obviously I'm very pissed. Not only will i have to find a new Dr overseas (they finally gave me a lady's name overseas), and pay a new dr, but worst of all the bitches don't want to give me my refund!!!

u) The customer service is so horrible. I feel like bitch slapping the receptionist at the Sandy Springs location that looks like she 18 and has zero manners, I always wonder how she got that job.

v) Before you pay 5 thousand dollars in full for braces, make sure it's not with this company, or at least go in prepared to deal with a bitch at the front desk, a fat cow called desiree (office manager), another bitch behind the phone called tracy that probably has no life and refuses to give you back your money, which she probably cheated you off in the calculations.

w) If you did read all, and even if you didn't summary. Be careful about choosing companies based of the internet. be careful about refund policies. be careful about this company especially if you want an orthodonitc refund.

x) Again I feel bad because the dr's and their assistants are nice. And in my last rant about horrible companies & customer service, someone mentioned to me that it is unfair when I do not put the company's name so people can be warned.

Y) Animal Farm,
Where the most bitches hibernate
Family Orthodontics (about 6 locations, I've only dealt with 3)

2230 Towne Lake Parkway
Building 1100, Suite 100
Woodstock, GA 30189

Phone: 678.445.9191
wefixyoursmile.com

yeah right, its open just once a week in my location for a few hrs.

Z) so if any of you do feel sorry for me in anyway, and have any ideas of how I can collect my refund, $1,000 might be nothing to you but thats a lot! Please contact them via Twitter, Facebook, or on their site, and tell them to improve their customer service & please give me my refund before i leave the country! (oh well, Guess i'll probably have to road trip to see the fat pig and get my refund & records)

more random B.S about Damon clear which maybe the name is deceiving and i should have paid more attention, so please dont be as silly as me, do more research or better yet save yourself the hassle and get traditional braces, or traditional clear braces, and you won't need a specialized dr.

Anyways that's my lovely rant.

edit 10.33am: I called that I was going to pick it up like some of you suggested, and guess what Tracy claims she mailed it out yesterday, but has no tracking number because she sent it out in regular mail. so there goes my check and my records.

edit Mon: i finally got my check! amen!